The one word I knew I needed to include with the title of this blog was Confident.
having a feeling or belief that you can do something well or succeed at something : having confidence
If the definition of confident has “confidence” in it, then what does “confidence” mean? According to Merriam-Webster “…a feeling or belief that someone or something is good or has the ability to succeed at something.”
For those that have known me for a long time may think that I am and always have been confident but until recently I discovered what true confidence feels like in all areas of my life. I think up to this point I’ve just been faking it. In high school and throughout my early 20s I struggled with bulimia and was never happy with how I looked.
Skip ahead 15 years and I now have 3 kids, two of which are twins that did a number on my body. My 5 year old gave me my reality check 7 months ago when she asked me if I had a baby in my belly (which I did NOT). She didn’t mean any harm by the question but as a self-conscious woman, that one hit hard and was just want I needed. I decided to changed my entire lifestyle. I started to eat healthy and exercise. I gathered together a group of woman that were trying to do the same thing as I was and we were going to do it together in our virtual group of real women that motivate, inspire, and support each other so we can all reach our personal health and fitness goals.
4 months of hard work paid off and I had my ah-ha moment during a day-date with my husband. We were walking down the street and he said he just enjoyed walking around with me because I was so confident. My husband is a wonderful man and gives me compliments often but “confident” was one word he never used to describe me before this day. Spoiled, yes. But never confident.
I am now confident as a wife, mother, workplace and in my own body. I know what is right for me and honestly, do not care what others think.
I believe that the majority of woman lack physical confidence. I don’t have any studies to back me on this (I’m sure there are many out there but I haven’t researched it myself) and I could be completely wrong (actually, I hope I am wrong).
I’m one to watch a Dove commercial and ugly cry because they hit the nail on the head in every video.
I’m a photographer and often have moms say how they want me to hide as much of their body as I can in photos. I even have moms that opt not to get into photos with their families because they are not happy with the way they look. They will say “next time when I’m a few pounds lighter.” I’m one to push moms to get in photos because life is too short, our kids grow up too fast and they want pictures WITH their mom, as they know her and love her. They don’t care about those extra pounds that you may want to lose. They love you the way you are. I’ve never looked at a childhood photo of myself and mother and thought “if only my mom was in better shape in this picture.” I don’t think there is one child that would think that.
Confidence in your body is something that will be the trifecta of your healthy lifestyle. With strength, health and confidence you seriously can do anything you put your mind to and I want to help bring that to more woman. We deserve it.